A mentor of mine told me a few years ago, much to my chagrin at the time, that, in order for things to change I would have to change and I would have to be uncomfortable to do it.
I soon discovered that he told the truth. The “magic” started to happen when I decided it was ok to be uncomfortable, even terrified at times, while changing.
The following principles became clear to me as I started my journey to a better place:
Get in touch with yourself by answering to yourself this question: “In what ways am I operating within my comfort zone, avoiding certain risks to stay “safe” but am unhappy, bumping into various “walls” or barriers and wanting something different?” Then allow yourself to feel the pain of where you are choosing to stay.
“Realize your inner dissatisfaction…the inner urge toward something more or different.”
–Dr. Mathew K. Norton
Set your goal
Decide where you want to go, what you want to achieve or become; then get that goal crystal clear in your mind. Select an image that represents the goal or put it in writing or both. Then put it on a Goal Board or Vision Board where you can see it daily.
“When we deal in generalities, we will seldom have a success;
but when we deal in specifics, we will rarely have a failure.”
–Thomas S. Monson
What is your “Why?”
Ask yourself: “What is the real, driving reason why I want to achieve this goal… what is the inspiration behind this?” Having your “why” sharply defined and clarified will keep you driving forward when you hit the inevitable uncomfortable waters and even face seeming failure.
Your Why is the very reason you exist.”
Set Intention Without Reservation
Set your intention that you will reach your goal, no matter what, that you have no reservations as to the outcome. Then check in on your goal daily. Having it and your “Why” uppermost in your mind will help you weather the challenges as you climb from one level to the next. It will help you keep your intention strong.
“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.”
– Napoleon Hill
Head for the next level
- Reach for a mentor at the next level to show you how to get there. You can attempt to do it yourself but having someone to show you the way, who has already traveled that road, will shorten the time it takes to get there.
- Change your thinking to get different results. Changing your thinking will change your actions, which will change your results.
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
— Albert Einstein
- Lighten your load of negative “baggage.” Let go of old resentments and hurts; it will allow you to rise. A boat travels much faster when its anchor is up and not dragging through seaweed, sand, rocks and other obstacles.
- Take positive action. Do it! Long ago, when I was a department store merchandise buyer and was “lazing around” in the middle of a sale, the store owner approached me and said: “Do something!” I did and more merchandise was sold.
“Action Ends Dissatisfaction”
– Bruce Hurley
- Get out of your comfort zone. The magic is outside of it.
On to the Next Level – Enriched by great rewards, responsibilities and actions
- You have access to more successful people, resources and money.
- Reach back and mentor someone else.
- Rush to the next wall to get to the next level faster
- Repeat the process
- Get a mentor, change thinking, lighten the load, act, get out of your comfort zone.
- Magic is starting to happen
- Observe it, Feel it, Celebrate it!
Repeat for More Magic
- Get used to being uncomfortable
- The discomfort will continue…and needs to if you’re still growing and reaching.
“He has not learned the first lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear… (so)…
do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson
- Keep your eye on your goal and your “why”
- Stay intentioned without reservation
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